There always seems to be resistance and an enemy in anything we do as humans. Whether we perceive that “enemy” as another human, situation, organization, or the universe it always seems to be there. But who or what is really this “enemy” to our success? Time? People? Our education? No, the enemy is us and our ego.
You might be thinking that you aren’t egotistical or that you don’t have a big ego at all, but I promise you do. Everyone does. While it is true that some people have astronomically huge egos and yours might be small when compared, it’s still an issue. Before I say why or explain in more depth I want you to know this fact: Everybody has an ego, and everybody is suffering from it. I want you to start thinking of your ego as a sickness. This might sound extreme but if we ignore the issue or dismiss it as too small to worry about then we’ll lose track of it and it’ll grow. The bigger your ego it the more you’re focused on yourself. The more you focus on yourself the more reality gets distorted in your mind. And this is where we run into serious problems.
When we focus on ourselves, our achievements, and our feelings, we can’t see the solutions and opportunities around us. We become stuck were we are. Growth stops and our feelings become amplified. This is where I think a lot of anxiety and depression can stem from. Our ego is the enemy and we can never fully get rid of it, so we must constantly keep it in check. One way of doing so is to focus on what’s around you and learning to be present/ in the moment. (my next bp will go more into how to check your ego!)
If you’ve read this far and still think you don’t have an ego, let me give you another key fact about ego. Insecurity is a form of ego. Although you might not be boastful or arrogant about yourself, like how most people perceive ego, it’s still there. Ego is by definition a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance as well as the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity. Going off of this, thinking of yourself too much results in your sense of self-importance. This does mean thinking of yourself too highly. However, we as a society seem to ignore that it also means thinking of yourself to poorly. Ego is how you view yourself. If you aren’t viewing yourself in a realistic way you have an ego issue.