New Beginnings- How to pause and start over

Have you tried starting over but just can’t shake the bad emotions and thoughts from before? It happens to everyone. Trying to have a new beginning with old emotions doesn’t work. We end up just as frustrated and hurt as before. So how do we properly start over? How can we take our lessons with us but not our emotions?

There are a few different ways to manage your emotions so you can fully have a new beginning. The first one I would highly recommend would be prayer and lifting up your worries and fears to God. I know most of you reading this don’t believe in God or see the Bible as truth. However, this is my go-to source for handling stress and sorting out my emotions, so I thought I’d share it as an option. God has always been there for me and has always helped me through tough times and my emotions. I truly believe going to him for help is the best way to get through anything, including a new beginning. If you don’t know how to pray it’s super simple, just talk to him. Prayer is just having a conversation with God, telling him what’s going on in your mind. Talking to God and trusting Him to be in control helps a lot with the anxieties of starting over.

The next source would be to objectively think through your thoughts and emotions. EX: Are my thoughts true or are they false? Are they helpful? Are my emotions valid and do they match the situation? How can I change my bad thoughts into something better?

This is reframing your thoughts. If you can change your thoughts then you’ll change your emotions. Which, in turn, changes your actions and habits. We like to believe that our emotions are valid no matter what, but this isn’t true. As humans we get angry and sad, often it’s unneeded. We only see from our clouded perspective. All our beliefs and notions about ourselves come from our thoughts. If we can reframe and change that we change everything. If we can turn every time we say “I can’t” into an “I can!” we’ll be able to do a lot more than we ever thought possible. 

Going from “I can’t” to “I can!” right away is really hard. Sometimes we need baby steps in-between, so if you aren’t quite able to believe you can right now then try “I can’t yet, but I will someday.” There’s always a possibility for anything and everything to happen. So if you can’t believe yourself right now just make sure to focus on the fact that you could someday, instead of the idea that you can’t. Saying “I can’t” is very restrictive and limiting. Make sure to leave room for growth. Plus…

Luke 1:37 – For nothing will be impossible with God.”

Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.

Luke 18:27 – But He said, “The things that are impossible with people are possible with God.”

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